Thursday, December 6, 2012

How to Fake Patience - Tip #4

When you are waiting to adopt, you have a lot of time on your hands, and money tends to run a little short.

And when the clock is ticking and hours feels like years, you have to keep busy to keep your sanity! But how do you use wisely the extra time while still saving for your adoption?

Here goes How to Fake Patience – Tip #4:

Shop for second hand children items.
You are going to need everything from clothes to toys, maybe a crib, a stroller and a change table, when your child comes home. And these things are really expensive.
If you feel able to, go to community sales where moms sell their used items. Every now and then, go online and look for good bargains. Kijiji, Craigslist and eBay can all be good places to start. If you don't want to buy used items, you can still keep an eye on your favorite stores and look for sales on children clothes and furnitures. Register for draws and blog giveaways.

You don't have to look at the stuff every day, you can keep it stored for now. When you finally get your referral, you'll be happy you started early and don't have to rush all the shopping at the last minute.

I realize this tip is not for everybody. Before you start buying, you need to consider whether you trust the process will be successful and how you would manage your collection is it didn't work out.

Pablo and I have allowed ourselves to indulge in the fun of shopping for baby because we truly believe we will have children one day (whether from Sri Lanka or from somewhere else). And we feel like, if everything fails and we end up not having children, giving away our baby items will not be the main source of our heartbreak. The process of deciding to give up our project will be.

So, if it feel right for you, shop away! It's so sweet when you make a good find!


  1. I admire the valuable information you offer in your articles.

    1. Thank you Isabel! It's good to know that my blog is useful to you!

  2. Hi Gen,
    I feel like a lot of us are having a hard time with the waiting right now. I think for me it has to do with the time of year and the fact that when I made my trip in May I had so hoped there was a possibility. My thoughts are on "R" right now. My country has changed its process quite a bit. Will post or email.
    Hang in there my friend. I think many of us struggle with the same thoughts and feelings.
    P.S. Your posts are always informative.

    1. Thanks Elizabeth!
      I know what you mean... I used to love Christmas and I was a real child about it. Everything from Christmas lights to old fashion Christmas movies to Christmas carols made me happy.
      These past 2 years, Christmas is like any other holiday: a reminder of the ticking clock. This year, we are running away from it all. We are going to spend Christmas abroad with a part of Pablo's family, no children, no decorations, no traditions.
      I hope we all get to have a happy, old fashioned Christmas for 2013 :)
      Hang in there, and thanks for the thoughts.